February 14, 2016 at 7:07 am #16951
Okay, so this isn’t quite as refined as suggested, but this is as close as I can get right now! Have gone through my copious notes (always good at collecting lots of words), and the following is the first ‘refined’ draft 🙂
1) WHAT is the eCourse all about that you’re inspired to create?
A 21 day course to learn/practice self-compassion
2) Out of all the options, WHY are you most excited to create this eCourse?
I believe learning kindness toward ourselves is the foundation to all other personal work. It helps us accept and connect with ourselves, notice our own value and allows for healthy relationships.
Learning self-compassion was my transformational journey through a depression… not a quick fix, but a lasting skill. And it is a skill… I believe we need to constantly nurture it so we stay on track, or come back on track.
3) Describe WHO you are creating this eCourse for.
For people who are stuck in ‘should’s. Who are people-pleasers, losing themselves as they focus on others’ needs and how they believe others judge them. Fearful of disappointing. Worried about not being enough… or being too much, they dim their own flame. Being so used to looking outward at what others think and need, they haven’t yet identified their own needs and desires. But they don’t feel on track, and are yearning for something which hasn’t yet been identified. They feel taken for granted, and this builds resentment. They feel tired, overwhelmed and guilty, never feeling they have done enough (or are enough). They compare themselves to others, finding themselves wanting. They feel they are always complaining and feel guilty for not being happy when they have so much (family, children, dog, home, vacations). They feel something is wrong with them, but they also find themselves critical and irritated with those around them, which feeds into their guilt. They feel disconnected from those they love, and lonely. They can’t see an end to this and sometimes feel really exhausted/hopeless.
4) Describe the TRANSFORMATION or benefits they’ll receive by going through your eCourse.
The top of the mountain gives my person a space to breathe out, to sit for a moment, and connect back with themselves… their wise and true self. It allows them to notice their strengths, to appreciate themselves, to accept their own range of feelings, to understand how their dominant story line (the one with all the shoulds) can be edited if it no longer serves them (next ecourse can be focused more deeply on showing them HOW they can edit their story).
By having their emotions and thoughts accepted and validated, they will feel soothed.
By allowing them to consider exploring who they are they will feel encouraged and motivated.
By providing them with opportunity to rest they will feel more nourished, and motivated to continue nourishing and caring for themselves.
5) Using your skills and resources, HOW do you intend to facilitate the ultimate transformation?
My person will be given daily opportunity to rest (for 2-3 minutes with an audio or visualization)
They will be given a daily journal prompt (there might also be an occasional audio to help with journalling)
They will be given a daily visual (photo or piece of art) to calm, soothe, inspire or encourage.
They will be given a daily suggestion to take with them for the next 24 hours to focus on self-kindness and develop the practice of checking in with themselves (awareness building)
They will be given an occasional link/resource to others
6) If your eCourse was a person, how would you describe its PERSONALITY or VIBES?
My ecourse is compassionate, gentle, accepting, encouraging and generally someone that you would love to hang out with because you come away feeling the best of yourself.February 15, 2016 at 1:03 pm #17086
This is coming along great @andrea. This looks like it’s going to be a super potent course.
A few questions. Do you think your WHO knows they need to be more loving and compassionate towards themselves? If no, what do you think they’re searching for and how do you envision your course being the ticket to solving that problem?
I’m really looking forward to your next phase of flushing out which will happen at Creatora Heights. This is going to be a very helpful process for the kind of people you described!
Great job.February 17, 2016 at 4:33 pm #17401
Great questions about my Who @bradleytmorris. I will sit with this and look forward to going deeper with Creatora Heights. Thank you 🙂February 19, 2016 at 1:53 pm #17783
See you at Creatora Heights!February 26, 2016 at 11:58 pm #18589
I could see my past self in some of those lines where you describing who, but I didn’t know I was that person like Bradley noticed. I only realized it after doing deep inner work and reflections…Those were unconscious patterns that took over my life since I was a child. And I was frustrated why my life was so hard, I was doing the best I could. Why everybody else got things so effortlessly and I had to struggle… I didn’t believe that life is supporting me.
I love that the content you offering helps them to relax and basically don’t do much… This is exactly what I would need in that state. As I see now, all I needed was just to take a moment and breath and connect to myself and drop into my body and feel my heart.April 6, 2016 at 10:10 am #20930
@tatianaqueen thank you for your feedback… really helpful. And the language you use really helps me … I can get too caught up in the language I now use, rather than how I used to articulate my situation to myself when I hadn’t yet started any personal exploration … a feeling that life was happening to me, and the constant comparisons with how it appeared to be so much easier for everyone else… a good reminder. Thank you. And I think at the time I needed someone to say, take a pause, and check in with yourself and find your courage.April 10, 2016 at 7:05 am #21151
Great sharing here. I Love this @andrea
And I think at the time I needed someone to say, take a pause, and check in with yourself and find your courage.April 10, 2016 at 7:18 am #21155June 17, 2016 at 3:15 am #25329
@bradleytmorris I keep coming back to do my students know they need what I think they need, ie. self compassion. Finding it really hard to find language that will resonate… it all feels too ‘counselly’…
The transformation is from feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious, Self-Critical, Guilty, Resentful, to… feeling more grounded, calm and relaxed with greater clarity and perspective and courage… I need help putting that into terms that people will relate to without me sounding really negative, or preachy…
I feel uncomfortable saying I can give this to them… I don’t want to promise something that may not happen… does that make sense or am I sounding too negative?
June 18, 2016 at 9:41 am #25421
- This reply was modified 6 years ago by andrea Bonsey.
What things are you confident you can provide/facilitate for people who are 100% willing to help themselves and listen to what your say. If “feeling more grounded, calm and relaxed with greater clarity and perspective and courage” is it, then own it. You are not doing anyone a service by doubting yourself (true story).
As for the language you use, you need to tap in a little deeper to your “Who”. What language do they use? What is their personality like? What do you think they watch on TV/movies?
IF you were your Who, how would you want to be spoken to?
How would you talk to this person if you were just hanging out having a coffee and you’ve known each other for quite some time?
Detach from artificial language that you wouldn’t use in these scenarios and tap into your authentic way of communicating. That’s your ticket.
hope that helps!June 20, 2016 at 4:50 pm #25473
Yes, great… back to the Who again for me. I need to really sit with that. And owning my own language and way I express myself… the authenticity part. Good to be reminded, because that old enemy ‘comparison’ pops up regularly.
And really helpful for you to identify that the student is “100 per cent willing to help themselves and listen”. That was a bit of an ahah moment, as I am always working with the image of someone who is still a little resistant (due to their stressors/anxiety/depression/overwhelm)… and I have to shift that to a student/client who is willing to do the work.June 21, 2016 at 6:50 pm #25522
Sounds like a breakthrough towards clarity to me!!
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