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Such an important idea. Listening first. Not just hearing info but listening to understand and feel with … empathic.. heartfelt listening… And the strategy and science backing up how powerful that is!
YES!
I have been teaching that in our therapuetic martial arts program for 10 years — to kids — as “blending” with an attack (not blocking or avoiding or fighting, but letting it pass and joining in the movement).
At this very moment, I am making a new handout and resources for parents about blending in termd of listening to validate (even when the thoughts and emotions sound crazy)…
Seems like an ancient yet needed now paradigm has caught us all in its wonderful web… : )
Thank you so much @laurakoller I’m also going to link it, with your permission, in the lesson guides/extra resources for my ‘Is Doulaing Your Bag?’ eCourse. I think it’s really brilliant and I’m going to get my children to listen to it as well. It has had the most impact on me of all the things I’ve been reading and listening to recently.
@davidj – YES! What an important lesson, an important audience, and a great way to teach it (kinesthetic). Nicely aligned 🙂 If you haven’t read these before, I highly recommend How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk and also Listen. Each of these books underscores the significance of listening and the neuroscience supporting it. The first (which I first read 20 years ago as a junior high teacher) is filled with cartoons and specific strategies and examples that are SO helpful and have had a dramatic impact on my interactions with people of all ages. The second, published just last year, highlights the importance of not only of carving out that safe space for our children, but also being sure to seek out our own “listening partner” so we have somewhere to turn when the demands of parenting inevitably push us beyond our limits.
@mars – What an incredible compliment. Thank you. I’m so glad my work has resonated with you and that you’re eager to share it with others. I’m thinking this is the first essential concept I need to address in my HealthCaring course. Kind of daunting, though, because in my head the concept is so huge and has so many different components. I need to keep things simple and stick to the essentials. I’m going to go back to your progress log and use your outline as a reference. I was impressed at how well you outlined each element of becoming a doula and then fleshed it out with engaging activities. I’d like to be able to do the same thing with my course 😉
Darn you all!!! You all just keep driving me forward!!!
I love the driving forward!
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