September 22, 2017 at 4:45 pm #54620
Birth plan – Advice versus Support. What’s the doula’s role
Exercise – journal an experience where you wanted support but instead got advice, then bring your thoughts and feelings about this back to the group.
Porridge/water/snacks – How do you find support? What keeps you going?
Exercise – Talk to two close friends about this course. Journal their responses and how it made you feel.
Journal and pen – Reflecting. Being mentored.
Exercise – Think back over the times in your life that you have been mentored. Do you have a mentor or mentors now? If not, choose one/or two. Come and tell the the group who you’ve chosen and why
Oils – Self care
Exercise – Book a massage, take a long walk in nature, meditate.
AIMS Booklet – Continued study
Exercise – [thinking]
Cash – What do you/could you earn as a doula?
Exercise – Look at your monthly outgoings. Think about what you would need to do to make doulaing ‘pay’ Come and share ideas with the group.
Conclusion, what happens next? – Do you keep the basket and go on to become a doula, or do you put it back and take up the rucksack and keep looking for the thing that brings you joy?
Exercise – Make your choice. Will you pick up your basket and grab the keys to your new adventure? Will you grab the rucksack and travel another fabulous path?
Okay. Time for bed. Now in the very early hours of the morning here.September 22, 2017 at 5:58 pm #54628
Bradley MorrisMountain Guide@bradleytmorris
This is such a beautiful, well thought out outline @mars. I think your students will love and appreciate it. I also like that you’re not trying to lead them into being a doula, that you are guiding them to find the best answer within themselves. That’s great.September 23, 2017 at 12:39 am #54694
Thank you @bradleytmorris What I’m missing is an exercise for continued study. I was thinking that maybe they should read a book, but actually.. talking about it.. I think that I should give them a series of blog posts and articles to read.
AIMS booklet – Continued study
Exercise – Read these blog posts. Journal what you’ve learned and/or what has sparked your interest that makes you want to know more.
Okay. The outline is done. Whoop whoop! I’m just tidying up the scripts for the anchor.fm episodes for the September challenge, then I shall finish scripting and storyboarding the mini eCourse. Need to put some serious thought into how this will be filmed and finished.September 23, 2017 at 12:36 pm #54844
Time to make myself work to the deadline. I’ve posted my sales/invitation letter.
Attachments:You must be logged in to view attached files.September 27, 2017 at 5:59 am #55711
So, it’s all coming along. Next step is filming the videos, however, I’ve hit a bit of writer’s block with the scripts. I’m struggling to find a good example of support vs advice. I’ve written the automaton emails, well mostly.
An experienced doula friend, who also trains new doulas, has read through it and thinks it’s really good and that I should be very proud of it. So, I just need those finishing touches and to film, edit and review. And I need to invest in a mic.
Goodness me but it was, still is, a lot of work. But man it feels great to be getting there. Look out mountain summit. I’m coming for you!September 27, 2017 at 6:43 am #55715
Hmmm. Let me “support” you here in finding your own rich example as opposed to giving you one myself or telling you how you should approach this (advice).
What would Socrates do…?
Ask you questions…
What do the two words evoke in you?
When did you feel most deeply supported in your life with something challenging? What did that person say and do that made you feel that way?
When did you feel like someone was giving you advice? And how did that feel? Where there ways of giving advice that turned you off or made you defensive? Where there ways that their giving advice was welcome and helpful? And how was it different (especially when advice was helpful) to when you felt supported?
Looking forward to some answers from you, wise lady!September 27, 2017 at 7:02 am #55724
@davidj consider yourself kissed. Words are beginning to come. And I’m going to say… I really want to c&p your words into my exercise.September 27, 2017 at 7:43 am #55732
@mars I really love the items in your basket/outline! Advice vs Support … I’ve certainly received a lot of feedback on this item in my own life lately and will be using @davidj questions to do some personal work of my own.
I have one child (now 24) and am always sad that although I clearly defined what I wanted my birth experience to be and asked my ob/gyn to confirm their willingness to create it, when the moment arrived I was treated like a patient and not a person. I truly value what you do and wish I’d felt brave enough to reach further outside the “norm” of today’s birth story.September 27, 2017 at 8:03 am #55737
Thank you @laurieheer It’s why I’m so passionate about my work. Our birth stories stay with us for life. You did what you needed to do. You asked for confirmation of their willingness. They let you down, and I’m so sorry that that happened. It’s a long hard slog trying to change the birthing culture, but there are wonderful people out there striving to get there.
Incidentally, my oldest will be 25 in December. I swear he was a baby just yesterday and suddenly, he’s a grown man.
@davidj – if I do the work and bring you my answers, may I use your questions on my course?September 27, 2017 at 8:05 am #55739
Absolutely use my questions. reword or adapt.
No need to attribute. Good questions that burrow into us and change us as we hold them are universal, come from the collective unconscious and meant to be shared.September 29, 2017 at 3:27 pm #56252
All my scripting is done. I’ve written my automaton emails.
I’m away teaching my face to face doula preparation course, but my green screen package has arrived, so once I’m home, it’s time to play.
Getting a wee bit excited.October 3, 2017 at 4:52 pm #57147
I’m home from the four day face to face course.
A couple of the women dropped out at the last minute and a couple didn’t come through with their promised bookings, however I had two fabulous women. And I remember something that @bradleytmorris said, possibly in a coaching call, or in one of his blogs.. [paraphrase] “Even if there’s only one person there, deliver your content as though you had a room full.”
What I learned was that filming outside when it is windy, is not ideal without a mic.
Playing with WeVideo is great fun and kept me entertained on the 2.5 hour train journey home.
The most important lesson was the unexpected blessings that are unlocked when you treat two people as though they were all the participants you desired to have and give them your best. One of the women has many connections within the BAME (Black And Minority Ethnic) communities of Birmingham. As a result of her posting at the end of each day on the course, a dozen women have registered their interest in my doula course. One of those women is a real mover and shaker within the BAME community. So if they translate into bookings/sales, I’ll be a very happy camper.
My friend aka my web guy, is giving me a mic, so it looks like I’ll be getting on with the videoing sooner than I hoped. I purchased an annual package with WeVideo and I’m looking forward to playing with it some more tomorrow.
It’s way beyond bedtime and the lesson is… now matter how fabulous the mountain, or how proud I am of my second ever video, I really need to get to bed before midnight.
Night all!October 3, 2017 at 7:56 pm #57175
Bradley MorrisMountain Guide@bradleytmorris
You are such a delight @mars. I’m not surprised at all that you’re getting a bunch of raising fans. Just keep showing up and sharing your gifts. Word will spread as you are now witnessing. So happy that you took those words in and applied them today. May magic and money follow!October 3, 2017 at 9:02 pm #57189
xbobbyAdventurer@xbobbyOctober 3, 2017 at 11:51 pm #57200
Thank you @bradleytmorris – it was almost 2am when I posted last night, and I’m up early today because a workman is due to come paint my bedroom ceiling. When you give sage advice, I follow. I had the best time and it was the best course I’ve run for ages. The more I gave, the more I wanted to give.
Thank you @xbobby I’ve been playing with canva for a while. It is how I made the basket ad. Great fun, isn’t it? I just have to remember to get on with producing the things that I want and not just play lol
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