Wow @davidj

Just caught up on the whole stream here. Your videos are powerful & I love the way you capture the different metaphors in your videos and the choice you explore at the end.

I’m wondering if there are working docs that come with each video? There is a lot in there, I would personally love a summary of main points and questions to ask myself at the end of each video to help me make the next decision/step.

@davidj – Wow.  This is so powerful.  I really appreciate how you take time to really sit in and dwell in and explore all the emotions.  Processing all that mess (amygdala) is so key to being able to make a thoughtful (prefrontal cortex) choice.  Through all of these videos, with the different path metaphor, you tell such a powerful story.  I keep using that word because that’s what it is – powerful.

I love Video #4.  I can see the journey, and that whole bit at the garden with your wife is yet another powerful metaphor, and that key point about “repair” being so critical to the relationship.  That was so spot-on.  I actually love meeting your family.  This is such a vulnerable topic, and you are so good at putting yourself out there and sharing your own vulnerability.  And once you extend that olive branch, it’s going to increase the likelihood that someone watching is going to return it to you.

I like the ideas in Video #3.  I like the story.  I like all the emotional exploration.  Here’s the thing that sticks out for me.  The first few videos were about 6 minutes (I think?) and video #4 is 6 minutes.  Video #3 is 24 minutes.  To me that seems really inconsistent.  And maybe it’s just me, but around 6 minutes or maybe 10 minutes, unless I’ve actually carved out a whole half hour for the experience, I’m ready to fast forward so I can find the remaining points, or I’m just ready move on to something else.  I don’t want to because I’m so riveted by your message and your presence on the screen.  It’s just a time thing, and I’m noticing that Brad says he watched half the presentation so I think there’s a time aspect to that, too.  So something to think about (later on, not necessarily right now) is whether you can either edit out some of the emotional exploration or perhaps divide the content into 2 or 3 separate segments.  It’s easier for people to end a segment and start the next one than to stop halfway and then come back to find their place later when they have a few more minutes.  Maybe video 1 – the emotion stuff, video 2 – the minotaur in the labyrinth story, and video 3 – the take-home message.

Once again, though, your message really resonates with me.  I wonder if it might work the other way around, too, that a woman might consider using this information in making the decision to “Stay or Go”  So much of this is relevant to anyone struggling in a relationship.

Kudos, kudos, kudos.  I can’t wait to see what comes next.

Ah!  I didn’t realize the labyrinth was the culminating video so that makes sense. I agree – if they’ve made it that far, then more willing to stay with you. I think if you consider adding the PDF worksheets that will help too. I signed up for a video course with multiple 20+ minute lessons on each module, and those PDFs are a godsend. Then again your material speaks to me with more passion and sense so I’d still vote for you.

I love that you’ve got a village standing with you on this one and I look forward to hearing more from you!

I appreciate all that feedback!  It’s reassuring to me that you do it in bits and pieces. Like I said, I’m impressed at how well you keep eye contact with your audience. I can see how all of your experiences play to that strength.

Sending you warm wishes!  Maybe such a stressful decision that you’ve got to tear off your vest?   Maybe you can do something really special with your wife and daughter afterwards – you know, a beautiful reunion.

You’ve got this!